Sometimes we feel stuck, for example, want to change our profession on the one hand, and on the other it is difficult to give up the income of the current job.
Sometimes we feel stuck in relationships, end up in repeated explosions no matter what we do, the other side is hurt. There are many ways that can help us get out of this and also ones that can prevent us from getting stuck. Sometimes we make others, our children get stuck. For example, our child does something forbidden and we ask him in a threatening voice to come to us. On the one hand maybe the child regrets what he did, on the other hand to come to us it means unwanted punishment and on the other not to come is double punishment. You have to worry about not putting your children in an impossible situation, where no matter what they do, it will not end well.
Stuck situations can disappear if we talk about it, explain how we feel and emphasize our need to avoid it in the future. If our children are able to express themselves and express their feelings about the impossible situation they are in, it can be very helpful for them in the present and future. If we understand what situation we have brought them into and encourage them to express themselves and help them out, it will help them in the present and future not to get stuck. The way to get out of stuck situations is based on three principles that appear in previous blogs and I refer to them here: First Principle: Submodalities define the situation in which we are
Second Principle: The ability to disconnect from ourselves, to look at ourselves from the corner and to observe the situation we are in, dissociation Third Principle: The ability to understand, to see what resource, what energy, what power we lack to overcome the stuck situation. And here's the way, the process that will help us overcome stuck situations: Before you begin the process, discover the stuck situationss associated with a significant other or the situation you put yourself in. 1. Standing - Think about the stuck situation. Find where you feel stuck. Pay attention to the feelings and especially what you hear, see, the emotion you feel when you are stuck - First Principle. 2. Take a small step back Look at yourself from the outside while you are stuck (watch you and the person or people involved in the situation). Notice what it is like for you to be there? Second Principle
What do you know from this position you didn't know before, when you were in the stuck situation? What are you doing there that makes it so difficult for you? What do you really want? Like love, integrity, health, happiness, perfection? In what way did the behavior you mentioned earlier help you achieve what you want? Which way not allowing the behavior you mentioned earlier helps you achieve what you want? In everything we do, there's something that benefits us, what's good for you in these stuck situations, what does it give you? What do you win from it ? What resource is available here that you did not have when you were stuck? Now you can see what you are missing during the stuck situation to get what you really want. You can remember a time when you had such a resource in life and connect to the resource in a strong way -Third Principle. For example, those who lack confidence in making a decision can connect to a time when they had confidence and thus help themselves to make the decision.
3. Now that you have all this knowledge, go a step further back. Take the time to look at yourself, observe yourself. Note that you are in a new place. What do you know from this position you didn't know from a previous point of view? For example, anyone who looks at himself debating between two works may discover from this position that he is wasting a lot of energy deliberating and that he would prefer to make one or the other decision. Again ask the questions: What do you really want? Like love, integrity, health, happiness, perfection? In what way did the behavior you mentioned earlier help you achieve what you want? Which way not allowing the behavior you mentioned earlier helps you achieve what you want? Everything we do, has something good for us, what's good for you in these stuck situations, what does it give you? What kind of resource you have here that you didn't have when you were stuck. Now you can see what you are missing during the stuck situation to get what you really want?
With each step, the picture becomes clearer and more tokens fall and you realize what you really want. Step 3 can be repeated until you understand what you want or until you feel angry at yourself as a result of the falling tokens.
When you reach this stage you will start to step forward with all the knowledge, resources, tools and ability until you get to where you started. Gather everything you've learned along the way, and connect with everyone at each station, bringing all the skills and knowledge, and taking them forward, and integrating ... Do it at the right pace for you. Note your feeling now that you have different ways of perceiving and interpreting ... And now that you have all the resources and knowledge, allow everything to blend from within ... Make sure the subconscious brings in an understanding of your ability and resources for healing ... an understanding that allows you to internalize wisdom and healing.
When you are in the experience again, facing the other (or others) what can you do differently? How are you able to express your feelings and desires to the other (or others)? Imagine yourself in the future ... when the thought comes to mind .... How will you look at it differently? How will you feel? How will you work? How will you speak differently?
Wish you Success,
And if you need help, I'm here for you,