Connected means remembering your experience through all your senses and subconscious.
Disconnected means seeing yourself in a movie that represents the memory of your experience.
It is a state of detachment from your experience and feelings.
Recording unwanted experiences, over time, in a state of disconnection, is "the job" as Yamima called it.
It is a profound and fundamental way to change life.Write down every day disconnected your bad experience, without judgement and struggle. Soon your life will improve for sure